I think it's very important that you talk about this. I came across this post and signed up just to leave an almost anonymous comment saying that... yes, I chose pleasure as well. There was a lot of guilt at first, but over time I allowed myself to embrace it.
I admit that, in certain situations, breastfeeding can feel deeply intimate and even sensual (sorry, I couldn't think of a better word for it). I became pregnant while still breastfeeding my first child and continued nursing throughout my pregnancy. For a while, I was tandem nursing as well... Anyway, I'll just say that it was an intense and loving period of my life, marked by a strong bond with both my children and my husband.
Oh my goodness, what a beautiful comment. Thank you so much for this and for sharing your experience. I am actually expecting a baby right now; I had to pause nursing my daughter for a while because it became uncomfortable, but I really want to tandem nurse once the new baby arrives.
It is exactly because of these moments—this deep connection, sensory comfort, and the vulnerability of it all—that I created my community for breastfeeding and infant nutrition. Mothers need a safe harbor to embrace this part of their journey without shame or judgment. I am always so happy to welcome mothers there, and I would love to see you among us. Thank you again, your comment truly means the world to me. 🧡
I'm glad you liked my comment, as this is a very delicate topic to share.
Congratulations on the new baby! Pregnancy can make us incredibly sensitive physically... I sometimes miss that period.
Would it be inappropriate for me to admit here that I occasionally allowed myself to reach orgasm while breastfeeding? For a long time, I felt guilty and thought I was the only mother experiencing something like this. At the same time, it felt deeply pleasurable, relaxing and comforting.
If you feel this isn't something I should be sharing, please feel free to delete my comment. I just felt that you might be someone who could understand experiences like this. Thank you 🙏
You know, this is absolutely normal. It is just as natural and biologically hardwired as a breastfeeding mother releasing milk during an orgasm.
Our bodies are designed in an amazing way: the exact same hormone—oxytocin—is responsible for both of these processes. It is oxytocin that causes smooth muscles to contract both during intimacy and during milk let-down. This is pure physiology, which is impossible (and unnecessary) to control or suppress through willpower.
This is exactly how evolution intended it, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Please, do not feel ashamed of your body and its natural responses—it is doing everything right.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I truly hope that hearing this will help many mothers stop feeling ashamed or guilty about their bodies. 💛
I know, the reactions are natural. But what made me feel conflicted was that I sometimes intentionally tried to reach orgasm, intensifying the natural stimulation by crossing my legs, moving my hips... or even touching myself. And... sometimes my husband was involved as well.
The conflict you feel often stems from a deep societal taboo—the false idea that motherhood and sexuality cannot coexist. But seeking pleasure, exploring your body, and sharing intimacy with your husband is a completely healthy and normal part of being an adult. Your body doesn't differentiate between types of stimulation; when arousal happens, oxytocin does its job, and milk is released. It's just mechanics. You have every right to enjoy intimacy without feeling guilty about how your body responds.
Thank you for writing this. Even after nearly 1.5 years of breastfeeding, this is a useful reminder to remember it's something that should be enjoyed by both.
Thank you so much for your comment! You are so right. Over time, the breastfeeding relationship changes and takes on new, beautiful colors. Toddlers become so incredibly gentle and tender with this closeness, preserving that warmth. It’s a special feeling that’s truly hard to put into words. Happy 1.5 years of your journey! 🤍
I think it's very important that you talk about this. I came across this post and signed up just to leave an almost anonymous comment saying that... yes, I chose pleasure as well. There was a lot of guilt at first, but over time I allowed myself to embrace it.
I admit that, in certain situations, breastfeeding can feel deeply intimate and even sensual (sorry, I couldn't think of a better word for it). I became pregnant while still breastfeeding my first child and continued nursing throughout my pregnancy. For a while, I was tandem nursing as well... Anyway, I'll just say that it was an intense and loving period of my life, marked by a strong bond with both my children and my husband.
Thank you for writing about this.
Oh my goodness, what a beautiful comment. Thank you so much for this and for sharing your experience. I am actually expecting a baby right now; I had to pause nursing my daughter for a while because it became uncomfortable, but I really want to tandem nurse once the new baby arrives.
It is exactly because of these moments—this deep connection, sensory comfort, and the vulnerability of it all—that I created my community for breastfeeding and infant nutrition. Mothers need a safe harbor to embrace this part of their journey without shame or judgment. I am always so happy to welcome mothers there, and I would love to see you among us. Thank you again, your comment truly means the world to me. 🧡
I'm glad you liked my comment, as this is a very delicate topic to share.
Congratulations on the new baby! Pregnancy can make us incredibly sensitive physically... I sometimes miss that period.
Would it be inappropriate for me to admit here that I occasionally allowed myself to reach orgasm while breastfeeding? For a long time, I felt guilty and thought I was the only mother experiencing something like this. At the same time, it felt deeply pleasurable, relaxing and comforting.
If you feel this isn't something I should be sharing, please feel free to delete my comment. I just felt that you might be someone who could understand experiences like this. Thank you 🙏
You know, this is absolutely normal. It is just as natural and biologically hardwired as a breastfeeding mother releasing milk during an orgasm.
Our bodies are designed in an amazing way: the exact same hormone—oxytocin—is responsible for both of these processes. It is oxytocin that causes smooth muscles to contract both during intimacy and during milk let-down. This is pure physiology, which is impossible (and unnecessary) to control or suppress through willpower.
This is exactly how evolution intended it, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Please, do not feel ashamed of your body and its natural responses—it is doing everything right.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I truly hope that hearing this will help many mothers stop feeling ashamed or guilty about their bodies. 💛
I know, the reactions are natural. But what made me feel conflicted was that I sometimes intentionally tried to reach orgasm, intensifying the natural stimulation by crossing my legs, moving my hips... or even touching myself. And... sometimes my husband was involved as well.
Thank you for being so open and sharing this.
The conflict you feel often stems from a deep societal taboo—the false idea that motherhood and sexuality cannot coexist. But seeking pleasure, exploring your body, and sharing intimacy with your husband is a completely healthy and normal part of being an adult. Your body doesn't differentiate between types of stimulation; when arousal happens, oxytocin does its job, and milk is released. It's just mechanics. You have every right to enjoy intimacy without feeling guilty about how your body responds.
Thank you again for this important conversation!
Thank you for writing this. Even after nearly 1.5 years of breastfeeding, this is a useful reminder to remember it's something that should be enjoyed by both.
Thank you so much for your comment! You are so right. Over time, the breastfeeding relationship changes and takes on new, beautiful colors. Toddlers become so incredibly gentle and tender with this closeness, preserving that warmth. It’s a special feeling that’s truly hard to put into words. Happy 1.5 years of your journey! 🤍